Earn a Certificate of Completion in Verbal/Emotional Abuse

This training course is FREE for anyone who wants to stop being the target of abuse and get the respect they deserve. You can do it and we show you how. Section 1 of the course can be started immediately after you read the Introduction, guidelines and disclaimer. If you find Section 1 helpful, then we invite you to continue with the second, more advanced half of the workshop. Section 2 is also free but requires the  use of our Respect-Me Rules book because the lessons are based on the 12 Respect-me Rules and how to implement them. This educational tool is designed to give you clear and practical information on this issues. The tutorial is moderated by Dr. Marshall and Shelly Marshall.

The second Section is password protected, and once you let us know you have the book, we will send you the user ID and pass word immediaately. There are Exercises that follow most of the lessons. The course is self-paced so don't rush. Once you complete each Exercise and have emailed us a copy of your lessons, we will send out a Certificate of Completion, without charge,  to show you are on your way to freedom from abuse.

You are a Target, NOT a Victim

YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM no matter what anyone--your friends, therapists, or mother--tell you. You are not a survivor either. You are a TARGET and you can stop it today. No one has to stand still for target practice. Yes, you may have been hurt by someone's anger, unhappiness, lies, accusations, and mind games, but "victim?" No longer. Never again. Get it out of your consciousness. Victims survive. Victor's win. You are not going to survive anything, you are going to WIN.

So do you want to have been victimized and survived it?
Or do you want to be victorious and win?

If you choose "winner," then this tutorial is for you. You are not alone, there are many of us who have stopped playing the victim role and we show you how we did it.

You have more power than you realize

Dr. Mike and Shelly Marshall, a brother and sister team, have put together this website program designed to help you see that you are not a victim, but rather a target. A victim is powerless and has to have someone rescue them. A target has power because they have learned to assess the situation and take action to get out of the way.

What can I expect to get out of this workshop?

Support Learn to tap into community support--either virtual or face to face--and use the resources that give you back the respect and self-esteem you deserve. Although no one can rescue you, they can help you practice behaviors that work in your own best interests and do not promote abuse.

Growth Your power and your worth come from one place--within. If you don't know your own worth and don't demand to be treated with respect, you invite others to misuse and abuse any relationship you have with them. Once you understand the Miracle Principle, life takes on a whole new meaning.

Strategy The Respect-Me RULES introduce you to the Miracle Principle, show you how to stop a partner from from calling you names, making accusations, controlling and manipulating your every move and making you feel worthless. But there is only person who can do this for you, and that is yourself.

Comments from Other Workshop Participants

Dan
Hi, I was reading this article and realized I was doing this to my wife. I do not know how to communicate well mainly due to my child hood exposure to abuse and my dad didn't set a very good example. I was exposed to this early on in my marriage and didn't know how to handle it. I retaliated with likewise behavior. That didn't solve anything. I have been trying to analyze and understand what went wrong. Now I know and will use the principles to better my marriage. Thank you so much. Dan

Amanda
This was truly amazing! I hadn't realized how I had let every kind of abuse creep into my 20 year marriage. I see now that it's me allowing these things to continue and that the more I show him my love for him, the more I'm giving my blessing to this increasingly cruel nonsense! No more. Thankyou so much for helping me see beyond the "episodes" that, thru my denial and fear have become an expected part of my daily life. I have a long way to go... but I feel FREE already

CC
Already you have helped me by saying, "You are a target, not a victim". All the professional help I've received so far either a/ just says that I'm an accomplice in the role playing or that I'm in a terrible situation, a victim, what can be done?.So I like your way of perceiving it. And believe me, I really need any help I can get (verbal abuse for over quarter of a century)

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