Nigerian Men and their Foreign Wives
Here is a great article that illustrates the point we make at YouAreATarget.com. Nigerian Men are abusive and domineering to their Nigerian wives and treat their foreign wives much better--WHY? Because they can get away with it in their culture but are less likely to get away with it with American wives--same man, two situations. In one they treat their wives badly--in the other, they don't.
Here is an excerpt from the site:
Nigerian Men and their Foreign Wives
Here is an excerpt from the site:
Why are Nigerian men afraid to turn control over to their Nigerian wives? Why are they averse to showing their sensitive side? Why the need to control and dominate? Why are Nigerian men reluctant to take their wives on a romantic walk to the parks and beaches, buy roses and cards? Why the need to bottle up their romantic side? Why have they refused to do for their Nigerian wives what they would heartily do for non-Nigerian women? After all, Nigerian women, unlike their foreign counterparts usually do not demand to be co-captains of the house.They usually do not demand for more than is earthly possible.
Nigerian Men and their Foreign Wives
posted by Shelly at 9:49 AM
4 Comments:
If you check my blog a couple days ago I posted about Muslim men trolling for wives (second wives too!) online.
But of course Western/North American women wouldn't put up with their rules and regulations. Whereas SOME traditional Muslim men beat & kill women for being "assertive."
VERY good post!!
Nigerian men are equally abusive to their foreign wives, I am AMerican and was married to a Nigerian. He is still trying to get me back. Certain mentality is engrained in these men because of their culture. Women are 2nd class. My husband was possessive and domineering, his pursuits and goals are number one, my goals meant nothing.
I know a couple of people Americans and people from the West Indians married to NIgerian and have so much strife. I didn't believe it until I married a Nigerian.
These men have mentalities and practices that are not healthy for any woman that they are with. Woman are an asset to them, not partners. Equality and relationship building is non existant after a commitment of marriage is made to a majority of these men. It is sad
Women are victims and targets to these kind of scenerio regardless of the men's race. It can happen anywhere. It is however, of great interest, to know that these kind of treatments and abuses women can almost be certain of becoming direct victims and targets when confronting with Nigerian men. It is, by statistic and ratio quantum, that Nigerian men (though yes there are nice ones) are overbearing, controlling, domineering and palestistic. You can see, in every Nigerian family, this traits exist, almost by birth, so to speak.
An extract of an article written by Sabella O.Abidde (http://www.nigeriavillagesquare1.com/Articles/Abidde/2005/04/nigerian-men-and-their-foreign-wives.html) which reads :
"A Nigerian woman is not likely to throw you out of your home; she is not likely to call the cops on you based on flimsy reasons; she is not likely to drag you through the judicial system; she is not likely to throw the divorce papers at you at the slightest provocation; she is not likely to turn her backs at you in times of financial difficulties and other crises. In order words: Nigerian women are likely to stay and be loving and generous and supportive for the long haul! Again and again and again, they have proven that of all God’s creations, they are the very best. And indeed, they are!"
Interesting, but not very diplomatic and indeed assertively bias (coming from a Nigerian man himself). Point of interest is this : if indeed Nigerian women are proved to be all of God's creation and are the very best, then why is that with those special gifts and best qualities possessed, they cannot even mould their men to be as special and acquiring the best qualities as themselves, instead their men turned out almost automatically to be overbearing, controlling, domineering and palestistic? I wonder, if these special gifts and best qualities possessed are only limited to being the best servants and slaves in their own community! Well, this is the 21st century and I, for one, will not take craps from these abuses and treatments when I know, there are men out there who can respect me for me!
I am so glad you decided you will not live to be the target for anyone--the "Nigerian" behavior described here is not limited to that country--it is very often a trait carried by men from different backgrounds, including men who use culture and religion to domainate their wives and children.
Granted, women abuse too--I've seen some horrible cases of women really hurling insults toward their men, so its not jsut men. The point is, we must learn to stop it before it starts. this includes self responsibility and practicing the "Respect Me rules."
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