A Perfect Target

This reads like a good novel. If you want to identify--see how others were "targeted," please read Catherine's blog--a good story.

A Perfect Target

Nigerian Men and their Foreign Wives

Here is a great article that illustrates the point we make at YouAreATarget.com. Nigerian Men are abusive and domineering to their Nigerian wives and treat their foreign wives much better--WHY? Because they can get away with it in their culture but are less likely to get away with it with American wives--same man, two situations. In one they treat their wives badly--in the other, they don't.

Here is an excerpt from the site:

Why are Nigerian men afraid to turn control over to their Nigerian wives? Why are they averse to showing their sensitive side? Why the need to control and dominate? Why are Nigerian men reluctant to take their wives on a romantic walk to the parks and beaches, buy roses and cards? Why the need to bottle up their romantic side? Why have they refused to do for their Nigerian wives what they would heartily do for non-Nigerian women? After all, Nigerian women, unlike their foreign counterparts usually do not demand to be co-captains of the house.They usually do not demand for more than is earthly possible.

Nigerian Men and their Foreign Wives

One of our readers found another great site as a resource. There are many reasons for abuse in a realtionship--one of which is sociapthy--here's a site that will help explain why. My ex never loved me (admitting this was hard to swallow at first) and he married me so he could appear normal and because I took care of him--Cathrine says in her blog "Their relationships allow them to appear normal. " Yeah--been there, done that. check out her site and see if that's why your partner is an abuser.

Without Empathy

Sociopaths fail to fulfill their promises or commitment made with romantic partners. They usually have a string of broken relationships and/or failed marriages due to their inability to feel true love and sustain intimate relationships. They never really form emotional attachments and therefore lack any sense of obligation. It may appear that there is an attachment but it isn't real. According to Dr. Martha Stout in her book 'The Sociopath Next Door', sociopaths will marry but never for love. Their relationships allow them to appear normal. Sociopaths can "know the words but not the music". They learn to appear emotional and romantic by imitating others' behavior.