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 Host, Shelly
MarshallFrom Fairview, UT About me. I am a recovering chemical dependent since 1969 when my mother took me to several 12 step recovery programs. I am fierce when it comes to my recovery and my spiritual program. My self-help books are based on personal life lessons and, fortunately, enough people find them useful so that I make a good living at writing. On this site I hope to share several things. A) that
keeping your partner's secrets
is unhealthy and dangerous.
B) that you can not be abused if you respect yourself and take responsibility for where you find yourself C) my fantasy of intimacy, friendship, and partnership was solely mine and not my spouses D) that my partner would not have pretended to be part of this fantasy if I had not been so co-dependent E) that analyzing your partner may make you feel better, but will solve nothing. Only respecting yourself and taking responsibility will create change in your life. You can find more information about my work at the Day By Day site. About
the man who inspired this site: I understand today that my
ex-husband, Bob
Bowman. never loved me. He couldn't. Yet I also deeply believe that he
wanted too, if he could just figure out how. I suppose Bob could be
described as a narcissit, amusingly absorbed with displaying his naked
body and
penis. Some experts say he is a sex addict and I
believe today his self-obsessions with penis and porn are at the base
of
his abuse toward
women. Yet I hope to show you why, even though our
marriage ended, it was not a failure for me. I never could have
understood what my problem with controlling, co-dependency and
accepting abuse meant without Bob in my life. Bob was an inadequate
husband, as I suppose I was an inadequate wife, but as a teacher, my
husband was the best. Hopefully my expereince with him will become a
learning experience for you, too.
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 Host, Michael J.
Marshall, PhDFrom Wheeling, WV Michael J. Marshall is a Professor of Psychology at West Liberty State College and a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice. Dr. Marshall is the author of a dozen scholarly research articles in psychology, published in journals ranging from the International Journal of Addictions to The Journal of Psychological Practice. He has considerable clinical experience working with parolees, substance abusers, and patients with psychotic and emotional disorders. He has a private practice and does community mental health contract work. His duties include assessment, treatment planning, crisis stabilization, and psychotherapy. He often testifies as an expert witness in civil commitment proceedings. In addition to lecturing and seeing patients, he conducts Continuing Education workshops for mental health professionals and does research on addictions and family discipline practices. You can read more about Dr. Marshall on his site StopSpanking.com or take a peak at his book Why Spanking Doesn't Work. |
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 Co Host, FreaFrom Australia About Me: I 've been through the wringer - have freed myself from a violent relationship with a drug/alcohol/sex addict. Still so much to learn - but I want so much more out of life - its worth the struggle. I am studying for the bachelor of applied social science degree to become a counselor, hoping to do my masters and also to start publishing books as well. Striving to be the best I can be. I also moderate a board for women with SA problems and their mates. http://www.sa4w.zoomshare.com/
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 Co-Host,
John PrinFrom St. Paul, MN About me: I am a licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor, formerly at Hazelden in-patient and currently serving out-patient treatment centers in the Twin Cities area. I speak to a variety of audiences on addiction and recovery topics such as "Freeing Ourselves from the Secrets that Make Us Sick" and other healthy ways to think, behave, and live. My recent book, Stolen Hours, helps people who "steal hours" away from their public lives to act out secret self-defeating behaviors and won  Co-Host, Dawn Johnson From Deerborn, MN About me: I became a student of verbal and emotional abuse after trying to make sense of a relationship I had left after a year of living with verbal abuse. At one point in my recovery, I even experienced a side of myself that made me realize I had the ability to abuse another as well--and that both frightened me and opened my eyes to what an abuser feels. If I can, I'd like to help any of you out there who feel as if they have lost themselves to please another.. Also, I'd like to help you start the process of letting go of the need to prove to your partner how good your intentions are, and, if you are farther down the road of recovery, to let go of the need to "show" your partner what they did or are doing. I truly feel you didn't land on this site by accident. This was true for me: "When the student is ready, the lessons will come." |
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